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The following are some excerpts from Dr. Chatterjee's book: The Final Verdict, as native Calcuttan, in his meticulously researched work, he points out that with all of the money that Mother Teresa received, very little of it actually went to the poor. Most of it was used in the upkeep of nuns and training of priests around the world. Mother Teresa's mission was to spread Catholicism and her strong anti-abortion beliefs. Here's the link to the FREE publication of the entire book: http://www.meteorbooks.com/introduction.html

* Mother Teresa often said that she picked people up from the streets of Calcutta, but she and her order of nuns did not do this. People requesting such service were told curtly to ring 102 (similar to 911).

* While the order owns several ambulances, these are used primarily to transport nuns to and from places of prayer.

* Mother Teresa said that her order fed 4000, 5000, 7000 or 9000 Caltuttans every day (the number varied). The two or three soup kitchens in Calcutta feed a maximum of only 300 people per day. The kitchens will provide food only to people with "food cards" that are distributed predominantly to the Catholic poor.

* While Mother Teresa's order has some presence in many countries throughout the world, the majority of these are for training monks or nuns, not for aiding the poor.

* Mother Teresa's shelters will usually only help children if the parents sign a form of renunciation which signs the rights to the children to her organization.

* Mother Teresa often insists that her natural family clinics prevent unwanted pregnancies, but this number is without any basis in truth.

* Mother Teresa insisted that suffering was beautiful as it evoked Christ's suffering, but when ill she visited exclusive, expensive hospitals"

* "The hospice in Calcutta through which Mother Teresa gained such wide recognition is very small (80 beds) and provides little medical care. Needles are reused, all patients are forced to have their heads shaven, visitors are forbidden and painkillers are rarely if ever used. The nurses do not speak the language of the people and are not usually involved in the care of the patients. This duty is assumed by volunteers"

* Mother Teresa often accepted money from suspicious sources, the most notable of which is Charles Keating, America's most notorious thief.
The Final Verdict
www.meteorbooks.com
Mother Teresa once made me cry. The year was 1988 - I was on one of my frequent holidays or visits to Calcutta from Britain, where I had moved to in 1985. I was standing by the kerb-side in Gariahat Morr, munching on a famou...

Some more links to further validate this story.

http://sallywarner.blogspot.in/2010_12_01_archive.html

www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ex9Mv-lb5pA

http://www.butterfliesandwheels.org/2010/the-missionaries-of-charity/

I will refer you to a book called "Wild at Heart."
I have bought one but my friend borrowed it before I even open it so I guess I will have to wait for her to finish it.

But it tells about the 3 core desires in the heart of every man (regardless of race, religion, etc)
1. Every man wants a battle to fight. if you have a kid (boy) they will wrestle and slam with each other, hit the wall and that's how they show affection! men are made for battle (movies such as braveheart, top gun, etc. ) don't you just love the heroes fighting for you?

2. Men also long for adventure! they love to climb, jump, and see how to ride bikes - without hands. it is a deeply spiritual longing for every heart of the man, they yearn to discover what it takes.

3. Every man longs for a beauty to rescue. this is not sayng that we,women are helpless creatures who can't live life without a man, but men long to OFFER strength on behalf of a woman.

and the greatest obstacle for them to loving a woman was that they take their Question to women. The question of "Do I have what it takes? Am I real deal? Am I a man?"

I don't know if there are psychological explanation but here are my opinion to your queries:
Why are men emotionally deficient?
Not really deficient I think but distant. They are wired not to become too in touch with their emotions. Physically, psychologically. I have yet to know more about this later.

"Why don't they need companionship, intimacy or even affection as we do?" Everyone has a particular "love language" most of the men needs more of recognition, or approval than affection. but they do, they honestly do but maybe not in the level that we need it.

"It is so easy for them to move on and leave a trail of broke hearts!"
I came out of an 8 year relationship and I thought that was the case bec he got a new girlfriend in just 2 weeks! oh well, he died already so during the wake and the burial, i was shocked how people reacted to have seen me saying "he missed you." "he pile up all your letters and was really wanting to go back" etc. this may not be the case for all men but i believe the failure to be a "man" in a relationship will move him to find ways to be "strong" or "undaunted"

"Iris dear, aren't you scared of being lonely? "
I am! I had a story on this, remember? haha!

Never meeting a man who is as crazy about you as you are about him? Do we give our hearts too easily?
Well, I don't know what to say. I am learning to live life to the full, expressing my femininity and trying to be as captivating as we (women) are all made- without spending much effort. LOL. We are not made to search for them. They have to go hunt for us! LOL. and when they do, may the image on this card unfold our truest beauty, inside and out.

Civil disobedience is not our problem. Our problem is civil obedience. Our problem is that numbers of people all over the world have obeyed the dictates of the leaders of their government and have gone to war, and millions have been killed because of this obedience. Our problem is that people are obedient all over the world in the face of poverty and starvation and stupidity and war and cruelty. Our problem is that people are obedient while the jails are full of petty thieves, and all the while the grand thieves are running the country. That’s our problem.” – Howard Zinn




There is one more thought about war which could have been mine but it is not.



It has been expressed by a war veteran, Mike Prysner. Prysner is justifiably considered a true hero to those courageous few who refuse to remain silent about atrocities and war crimes that are almost invariably covered up by the military or censored out of public consciousness by the mainstream media, a situation that is epidemic in this time of war.



Those who send us to war do not have to pull a trigger or lob a mortar round. They do not have to fight the war. They merely have to sell the war. They need a public who is willing to send their soldiers into harm’s way and they need soldiers who are willing to kill or be killed without question. They can spend millions on a single bomb, but that bomb only becomes a weapon when the ranks in the military are willing to follow orders to use it. They can send every last soldier anywhere on earth, but there will only be a war if soldiers are willing to fight, and the ruling class: the billionaires who profit from human suffering care only about expanding their wealth, controlling the world economy, understand that their power lies only in their ability to convince us that war, oppression, and exploitation is in our interests. They understand that their wealth is dependent on their ability to convince the working class to die to control the market of another country. And convincing us to kill and die is based on their ability to make us think that we are somehow superior. Soldiers, sailors, marines, airmen, have nothing to gain from this occupation.

http://holesinmysoles.blogspot.com/2011/12/tell-me-dad-will-we-go-see-rhino.html:
Written by Jim from New Zealand.


The pictures you show in the stories you read me
When I grow, will we go?
Can we see them?
Oh, how I want you to take me to see them,
The great animals you show me in the stories you read me.
Will they be there?
Will they graze where we gaze
In the wild where they should be?
I want to see them.
I want to hear them.
Will they be there when I grow?

I want to know when I grow you will take me to see them.
All the stories you have told,
When you read me to sleep and set me a-dreaming.
And the pictures that you showed.
I want to know we can go see a rhino.
And if I want,
The elephant,
The leopard, the lion and the big buffalo
Are gonna be there,
Roaming free where
A little boy dreamed them?

Tell me Dad, will we go see the rhino?
Can we go and enjoy them?
All the beasts in the pictures in the stories you read me?
While man destroys them
Can you ignore them?
Will you help me protect them for my own little boy?

I want to know we can go see a rhino.
And if I want,
The elephant,
The leopard, the lion and the big buffalo
Are gonna be there,
Roaming free where
A little boy dreamed them?

Its all about stroking, folks.  The physical touch is so important.  Touching  a shoulder while talking, shaking hands and maybe holding on for a few more seconds really tells the other person that you care for them.  I absolutely crave physical contact.  Hugging occasionally and a kiss now and then, I mean, how difficult is that?  The people around me do not appreciate when I stand a little close to them while talking much less physical contact.  Why are people so scared of physical intimacy?

For me sharing physically means trusting and caring.  When I was small I used to long for my parents to cuddle me which never happened.  After marriage I longed for my husband's hugs which also happened a lot initially but later....nothing.  Now, I have a son whom I hug a lot.  Thankfully he reciprocates but what happens after he is married and has moved away?  I do need a companion and a very close friend.  Intellectually  first, please!

ORLANDO: A woman's heart breaks more easily than 

a man's. Females are seven to nine times more likely to suffer 

" broken heart syndrome," when sudden or prolonged stress 

like an emotional breakup or death causes overwhelming heart 

failure or heart attack-like symptoms, the first nationwide study 

of this finds.

 

Usually patients recover with no lasting damage.

 

The classic case is "a woman who has just lost her husband ,"

said Dr Mariell Jessup , a University of Pennsylvania heart 

failure specialist who has treated many such cases.

 

Cyndy Bizon feared that was happening when her husband , 

Joel, suffered a massive heart attack in 2005. "May God 

work through your hands," the Maine woman told the surgeon

as her husband was wheeled past her into the operating room. 

She later collapsed at a nurse's station from "broken heart

syndrome" and wound up in coronary care with him. 

Both husband and wife survived.

 

Japanese doctors first recognized this syndrome around 1990 

and named it Takotsubo cardiomyopathy; tako tsubo are octopus 

traps that resemble the unusual pot-like shape of the stricken

heart. It happens when a big shock, even a good one like

winning the lottery, triggers a rush of adrenaline and other stress 

hormones that cause the heart's main pumping chamber to balloon 

suddenly and not work right.

 

HOW DOES A BROKEN HEART PHYSICALLY AFFECT THE

 BODY?

 

    Chemical Changes

 

        When a person falls in love, the "happy" chemical dopamine and the 

"trust" chemical oxytocin increase to very high levels. Critical thinking shuts down,

 caution is thrown to the wind and one becomes blind to her lover's faults. 

At times, it seems as if the lover is the only thing that matters. People become 

"addicted" to these chemical rushes much the same as one can become 

addicted to drugs such as cocaine, amphetamines, heroin, morphine and 

oxycontin. When a relationship ends, the body is in withdrawal from these 

chemicals. The circuits in the brain that are involved in love and loss are really 

a motivational system. A person who has been dumped is experiencing the

same irrational and involuntary brain state as a person deprived of food, 

water or a drug. Mania and an obsession with regaining what has been lost 

may set in. The circuits of fear and anxiety are also at full throttle, as oxytocin 

levels decrease. These effects may be worse for those who never felt safe and 

secure as children, as the fear circuit never developed properly.

    Physiological Changes

 

        Being dumped also has effects on the autonomic nervous system. The 

chemical changes cause physiological variations in heart rate, blood flow,

blood pressure and digestion, to name a few. The stress hormone cortisol 

runs high, weakening the immune system and bringing fatigue and sickness. 

Loss of romantic love ignites the same brain circuits as physical pain. 

thus, the notion of a heart breaking is not simply a metaphor. 

Loss can create very real pain in the body.

    Symptoms

 

        The physical and chemical changes brought about by the loss of romantic 

love can create a cycle of symptoms. If the heart does not heal quickly, 

symptoms can begin to build upon one another, creating more and more 

problems. Many people nursing a broken heart withdraw from social activities 

and sink into depression. The sleep cycle is thrown off as the person either 

lies in bed all day or develops insomnia. Frequently, there are also disturbances 

in eating patterns. Some people will stop eating while others may overeat or 

tend to overindulge in very unhealthy foods. The constant nagging pain of loss 

may also lead to constant, uncontrollable crying, and an inability to work or 

concentrate on any task. These debilitating symptoms can have adverse effects 

on all areas of life. As work suffers, so do finances. As social relationships are 

put on hold, support and connection with reality are lost. It is important for 

someone who has just had her heart broken to keep a social support system. It 

may also be helpful to look at the benefits of singlehood. Many people find that 

after the initial shock of the breakup has passed, they have a newfound energy. 

The freedom, independence and sense of accomplishment that come with doing 

it all on your own can be revitalizing. Anyone who feels overwhelmed by the loss 

of a lover should seek professional help. Sometimes the pain is too difficult to 

bear alone. A chat with a therapist may help to sort out the negative feelings.

 

 

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